Friday, June 14, 2013
When it comes to whether to let a relationship go or not, I believe we tend to allow every opinion except our own unduly influence us.
We turn to magazine articles, blog posts (yes, sometimes like this one), and books in order to determine if our current relationship is going to go the distance.
Well, there are no guarantees in life - we all know this.
No one can predict the strength or lasting power of a relationship. If someone claims they can, they are just full of crap.
Life is too full of uncertainties. People change. Circumstances change.
Plus, every couple is different. What may be acceptable and works in one relationship, may be deal breakers for you.
That being said, there are certain foundational characteristics healthy relationships share, including these five:
1. You are there for each other through good times and bad. It's so easy to be in love while the sun is shining bright and the sky is blue. It's when the inevitable storms of life come that test the mettle of a relationship. Life events like unemployment, illness, financial difficulties, and the loss of a loved one can challenge even the most devoted of couples
2. You are each other's biggest cheerleader. There is no feeling on this earth quite like knowing the person you're in love with is completely supportive of you, your hopes and dreams
3. Trust isn't an issue. If you are with someone you don't trust, then why bother? Enough said
4. You communicate. Yep, I used the "c" word. Bottom line, if your relationship stands a chance, you must be able to talk to each other honestly about anything
5. Your core values are similar. Your values don't have to be exactly the same, but you two should be on the same page about important life issues such as financial management, sex, child-rearing, politics, and religion
What other fundamental traits do you feel rock solid relationships possess? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!
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Thursday, April 18, 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Favorite Links Including Posts About Prejudice Against Unconventional Couples To Avoiding Garbage Relationship Advice
[This is a weekly feature where I publish a series of favorite links to great information about love, relationships, and life in general.]
Have you ever looked at a couple and wondered how does that work? Sure you have. We all have. A very short man is with a tall woman, or someone is in a relationship with a person with a noticeable disability. I recently stumbled upon an insightful article on The Big Girl Blog that exposes and challenges societal prejudices against so-called Unconventional Couples
Sometimes, it's the simplest gestures that can make a huge difference in a relationship. On the sensational dating and lifestyle blog Nandoism, Nando explains Why Holding Hands Will Help Your Relationship
A huge pet peeve of mine is all of the garbage information out there posing as solid relationship advice. If you have ever perused the magazine aisle of any supermarket, you know what I'm talking about. Thank God for sites like Loving Boldly, which is dedicated to providing meaningful relationship advice that works. A prime example is the recent post Wearing Lingerie To Save Your Relationship Is Like Eating A Chocolate Bar For Dinner
I'm a big believer that taking responsibility for your own happiness is the best way to create rich relationships. The inspiring self-development blog Tiny Buddha has published a charming article with easy strategies you can use to begin spreading joy to others, which in turn will help brighten your spirit 8 Easy Ways To Spread Happiness Around You
Do me a favor? If you know someone who could benefit from these excellent resources, please share this post.
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